I want to talk about the risk in love, today. I feel like people are scared of love because they are scared to risk their life -- to put their heart in the hands of others, to do as they please.
I can understand why. I understand completely. People are scared of getting hurt.
This is the same argument that most people have in life. They're lonely, and want a relationship, or they are in a relationship, and are still just as lonely. People hesitate to risk talking to the one they love, they procrastinate because they are scared of the other person's reaction, or they are nervous of what the other person will do or say.
But this is the risk in love. You will never have love without risking something.
“The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief. But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love.” ~H. Zunin
Mostly, in love, you will risk getting hurt. You will love someone in your lifetime, and they will not love you back. Or you'll love someone, and they will break your heart. This is inevitable. You will always have to risk getting hurt, unless you want to live a loveless life. And that, in my opinion, is not a life at all.
Something else I want to bring up -- love is a risk, and if you are scared of the risk, think of it this way. If you get hurt, think of it as a learning experience. Think of it as a lesson, so you can move on, and learn to never make that mistake twice. You can learn to weed out the mistakes you made in the relationship, or the other person made, and the next time around, you know what to avoid. One of my favorite quotes is: "It's not a lie if you believe it. And it's not a mistake if you repeat it."
Love isn't only about risking getting hurt, either. It's about risking other things, too. For example, risking taking a chance on love; risking living far apart; risking living together; risking saying something you have never said before, or doing something you've always wanted to do. Love is all about risk. It is the most risky thing in life.
And yet, without love, what is there in life?
The Risk of Love
There is a risk involved in everything
Every time you share a smile
Every time you shed a tear
You are opening yourself up to hurt.
Some people tread slowly through life,
Avoiding the closeness risk brings,
Sidestepping the things they can not understand
Turning away from those who care too much-
Those who care stay too long,
Those who hold too tightly.
There is never an easy way to love
You cannot approach it cautiously
It will not wait for you to arm yourself.
It does not care if you turn away
It is everywhere, it is everything.
Love is the greatest of all risks.
It is not reliable, it is not cautious,
It is not sympathetic
It is unprejudiced and unmerciful.
It strikes the strongest of mind,
And brings them to their knees in one blow.
Even in the best of times, love hurts.
It hurts to need, it hurts to belong,
It hurts to be the other part of someone else,
Without either of your consent.
But, from the moment it overtakes you,
It hurts worse to be all alone.
The risk of love never depletes;
It grows stronger and more dangerous with time.
But, it is in the total surrender of all defense,
That we, no matter weak or strong,
No matter willing or captive,
No matter what, we truly experience love.
Despite the many things love is not,
Outweighing it all are the things that love is.
Love is surrender without a loss.
It is a gift without the cost.
It consumes your every thought and desire,
Every breath you take.
It is the fire that fuels you
To do more than pass through life;
It urges you, instead, to live.
No matter the outcome, having felt love,
You will never be the same.
It may scar your heart and soul
And leave you only memories of forever.
Or, it may cause every day of your life
To feel like there is no need for tomorrow.
But, love is worth it. It is worth the risk...
For in all of life,
Love is truly the only risk worth taking.
- Kris Hydmore
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